January Reflections

Good morning/afternoon/evening, you beautiful people!

The longest month of the year is finally over!

I wanted to share what I learned during the first month of the year! 

Losing a negative person is still a loss 

I have heard more times than I can count that losing a negative/bad is not a loss and instead they lose you. I honestly disagree with this statement because I feel when we believe this, we no longer allow ourselves to be honest. The truth is sometimes we keep bad people in our lives for long periods of time because of one of three things:

1) We love them

2) We need them

3) We wish that they would change, see the wrong in their ways and repent. See the value in what we share and not throw it away. 

(This applies to both romantic and platonic relationships)

It's more than okay to feel this way. I do not honestly believe that you can let go of or lose someone that you felt either of the above for and not potentially feel as if you have lost something/someone. So, if you do feel this way, know that it's completely normal and 

I want to be aware of your hurt and your ache. Be aware of the vulnerability caused by their absence and please do not get into a rebound relationship. Give yourself enough time to heal, grieve and feel whatever you feel. 

Keep the faith 

God will never forsake you. Life is unpredictable and challenging. The first three months of the year are usually filled with me trying my best to find my way and anchor myself. Sometimes it's easy to wonder when will the pain end, the discomfort, the never-ending sea? When will I finally step out onto dry land? Keep the faith, the faith that God loves you and has a beautiful plan for your life. Keep the faith, even your current situation appears doubtful. 

The power of little prayers

Prayer is how you maintain a relationship with God and prayer does not have to be intense or long or perfect. It's more than okay to go to God when you don't really know what to say. God is like no other, He sees your heart, not just your words unlike anyone else. So, just go before Him, with whatever is on mind or heart. It does not have to be just for the "important stuff" but the regular degular seemingly small things. Tell Him about your day, your crush, your hurt, your pain. Tell Him about the person who pushed you in the queue and how that made you feel. Talk to Him how you would converse with a trusted friend. 

It's important to anchor yourself but let the waves be waves

You will not always feel your best. Some days will truly feel heavier than others and on those days it's important to slow down and remember who you are choosing to be. Know that the person that you are is a choice. You wake up each day and choose kindness  choose love, choose patience. Know that on some days it will absolutely be a choice, there will be says where you will prone to anger or resentment or overwhelm. I am talking about those days, on those days, take things slowly. Be slow to anger, slow to take offense, slow to say whatever thought enters your head. Breathe in and out and just do the next right thing. 

Question of the week: What did you learn during the month of January?

Journaling also helps too! 

All pictures used in today's blog post are fro. Pinterest!

All my love♥️

Ruthy