Good morning/afternoon/evening, you beautiful people!
Welcome back to my monthly lesson review, where I share how my month went, importantly I also share the lessons that I have learnt. February was quite a challenging month in my life but with challenges come lessons and the opportunity to grow into a better person, so here's what the month of February has taught me: feel free to share what you have learnt or experienced as well!
When life feels heavy, give yourself the grace to just take it 24 hours at a time. Ask yourself, "what do I need to do within the next 24 hours in order to make my life easier". It is so easy to feel the weight of the world and all of life's responsibilities. Especially as a young woman who is still finding her way in the world. Making the transition from a child to an adult is not easy and at times, it can feel overwhelming but take courage and learn to take life 24 hours at a time, when you need to.
Be proud of yourself
This has been such a huge lesson. As growing up, I really sought outward validation. I would not feel as content with myself and my accomplishments and how far I had come, if someone did not validate my achievement. I believe that it is important to be validated by your loved ones as I think that it is a human need; to be seen and heard but I do believe that we are most powerful when we appreciate and validate ourselves.
It's okay to cry
This is a lesson that I am still learning. Emotions are apart of what it is to be human. It's okay to feel, it's okay to feel hurt and sad. It is so important to be able to express these emotions. For the longest time I tried so hard to hide my emotions. The ones that I felt seemed too much. My joy, my excitement and my sorrow. Now at the age of 21, I am learning to know that it's okay to express my emotions, I am learning that it is safe to express my emotions. So, now I allow myself to cry, to feel what I feel and not to condemn myself for being unable to be like a robot, who has no emotion or capacity to love.
It's okay feel overwhelmed
Tying in with my first point, overwhelm is a apart of life. It should not be the norm because living in a heightened state of stress is unhealthy but it's okay to feel this way. The world is not going to end and you are not going to die. Breathe and do the next right thing. If that is taking a nap, honey, grab your pillow and get some zzzz but if the next right thing is pushing through your emotions and finishing your task at hand, then do so. The right thing doesn't always feel peaceful and calm. Sometimes it involves waving war with your safety mechanisms and your narrative, in order to achieve growth. It won't be easy but know that life is not linear and neither are your emotions.
It's okay to be frustrated even when you are blessed
To be blessed by God is such a beautiful thing but the presence of blessings does not mean the absence of pressure. It's okay to feel the heat but know that we serve a God who can bring us out of the fire without the smell of smoke.
Pray, always
If you know me, you know how big I am on prayer. Without God, I am nothing. I am a living testament to His goodness and love. Always pray even if you are at a loss of words and all that you can mumble are tears. Never stop coming to Jesus, regardless of your situation.
Fortune honours the brave
I heard this quote from my mom and it has stuck with me, ever since. Life is short, love is too rare, sometimes opportunities come once in a lifetime. Those who are deemed "lucky" are people who prepare for opportunity and when it comes(because it will come) are brave enough to go after what they want and need.
Question of the week: How can you honour yourself?
All my love 💕
Ruthy
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